"Own the Pieces" - Unpacking Mental Toughness and Performance | Ep. 79 with Josiah Igono
In this compelling episode of the "No Grey Areas" podcast, we dive deep into the realms of mental toughness, performance psychology, and the art of owning one's narrative. Our guest, Josiah Igono, former college athlete, strength coach for GCU & the Texas Rangers, and author of the enlightening book "Own the Pieces," shares invaluable insights that transcend the world of sports to impact every facet of life.
The episode explores the power of imagination, the significance of positive stress for growth, and the transformative impact of reframing our thoughts. Josiah emphasizes the role of breathing in optimizing brain function, urging listeners to embrace the adjustments that are an inherent part of life.
Our host, Pat McCalla skillfully guides the conversation, extracting nuggets of wisdom from Josiah's experiences as a performance psychology professional. Whether you're an athlete or not, this episode promises to inspire and equip you with tools to navigate life's challenges with resilience, mental fortitude, and a strategic mindset.
Don't miss the chance to connect with Josiah Igono and enter the podcast's Instagram giveaway for a shot at his latest book, "Own the Pieces." You can also purchase his book at https://www.josiahigono.com/product-page/own-the-pieces. Tune in now to elevate your mental game and own the pieces of your unique journey!
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Transcript
Host
Today we have Josiah Gono on our podcast. Josiah was a previous college athlete, former strength coach for GQ and the Texas Rangers, a performance psychology professional and author of a new book. We're going to unpack on today's podcast episode
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called Own the Pieces. Whether you're an athlete or not, we discuss the mental toughness, how to reframe circumstances in your life, and how to tackle the tricky triad
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that will help in so many areas
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of your life.
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Listen now.
::Pat McCalla
Josiah Gono, welcome back to no great areas. You know, you you have the
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pedigree
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to be one of the you are back a second time. So you actually came on our show? Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
on. You came out with the book
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That's right.
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book. nice.
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Yeah.
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it. Yeah, Well, appreciate you having me on again, man.
::Josiah Igono
Thanks for the invite. It's always good hanging out with you, man. Yeah, Yeah, absolutely.
::Pat McCalla
I'm going to ask you to bring a little more
::Josiah Igono
Ha ha ha ha ha. You know, you just get. Just give me a second, man. I'm getting warmed up right now. Getting warmed up. I don't care what it is, you know? I mean, you appreciate you, all right?
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So. Yeah, yeah.
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Own the pieces, man. All the pieces of the book that's written to athletes
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about mental performance. And even though it's written to athletes, I believe that any high performer or anybody who wants to get better is going to take something from it. You know, when you look at the world of sport and performance psychology, sometimes it's ominous, it's misunderstood.
::Josiah Igono
I remember even on the way up here, I was thinking, man, I was like, yo, you know, when I was growing up as an athlete, the only mental performance mental skills training that I had was reading my Bible, right? Visualizing. And just like, you know, studying my playbook that was it. There was no like, you know, there was no there's there's no like, all.
::Josiah Igono
Okay, let me let me talk about let me let me think about perfectionism and and confidence and like like that wasn't a thing for us, you know what I'm saying? And so the other
::Pat McCalla
part was the coach yelling during the game, Go and
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, yeah, exactly. That was that.
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mental toughness.
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All of it. Right. And so, so now we have actual words that we have put on it, you know, to describe certain things like perfectionism and confidence and flow states, you know what I'm saying? We have different words. And so the book was written in a way that
::Josiah Igono
conversational. It's like you and I having a cup of coffee, right?
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, you're right. So I have professional athletes reading it. I have seven year old, you know, kids who are playing club reading it. So that's how it's written. Very simple and digestible. I want to
::Pat McCalla
tell the audience for sure, because we have a lot of people in the audience that would go, I'm not an athlete or
::Josiah Igono
Yeah,
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doing, for example,
::Pat McCalla
chapter one is focus and performance.
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Yeah.
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Yes,
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for me. I
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Yes. Right. The noise
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Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
And I and I read that. And obviously it's focused toward athletes, but I'm going, man,
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I'm not an athlete anymore,
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And work out but I looked
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Yeah. yeah.
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That's right.
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and execute the mission.
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Yeah, I start off the book with focus because if you cannot focus on anything, you cannot do anything for a sustained amount of time. So that's why I actually start with focus.
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The average individual. There's all kinds of research and data out now. The average individual can only focus on an inanimate object for 8 seconds before he or she loses focus. Right. And it's crazy that's
::Pat McCalla
gotten worse with with our culture
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Yeah.
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Yeah,
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can be.
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Yeah that's it's I would there's a double edged sword with focus right. So a lot of people say, my kid has ADHD or I have ADHD and that's another subject for another podcast for another time.
::Josiah Igono
But there's a theme we're got to have you on the third time. my gosh, man. The third time you got to pay me for the third time. You I'm saying the first couple, the first two are free, you know what I'm saying? No, I'm just kidding. So when you look at when you look at the where we are as a society, to your question, it's a double edged sword, because not only is there an inability to focus like no other, like no time in his human history, but there's also this welcoming of distractions.
::Josiah Igono
There is a we are as a society, as a world, as a nation, we are welcoming distractions. We got Hulu, we got Voodoo, we got Netflix, we got DirecTV, we got YouTube, we got Twitter, IG, Snap, Instagram, Tik Tok. We got everything, man. And so we are welcoming. There's the exactly. It's all in our hand and we have notifications for everything.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah. So, so it's a double edged sword. We have an inability to focus yet we welcome distractions. We love it, We love distractions.
::Pat McCalla
Do you notice that with athletes, do you think it's gotten I mean, because again, that's always been one of
::Pat McCalla
the keys to athletic performance, right. Is the mental ability to focus
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
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flow state.
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is it more difficult for them today or is it to sing?
::Josiah Igono
It's difficult. Is more difficult. There's more athletes today, especially professional athletes live in a fishbowl. They are being evaluated. They are being watched 24 hours a day, seven days a week. there goes. There goes Messi right there. Where's my cell phone? You're looking LeBron. There goes Steph Curry. Where's my cell phone? Right. It's crazy, man. Like, you know, you go to a World Series, you go to a playoff game, you go to any type of sport performance of magnitude.
::Josiah Igono
And everybody's got the cell phone out, man. We're not even watching the game. We're more concerned with capturing a moment to make us look good for social currency. You
::Pat McCalla
know what's so interesting about that is my wife and I, we have a mantra, and we started this over 20 years ago, but we keep morphing it a little bit because it means something different.
::Pat McCalla
But we are coming back on a road trip and I used to be one of those guys where soon as I got in the car I wanted the kids to go to sleep. I was calculating how many miles my average speed limit. I was making a goal. I was
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was, yeah.
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and we
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And
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on that like like the journey is just right, the
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that. Yeah.
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That's right.
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that. Right. Right. For our audience,
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Yeah, for sure. So
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in today's game?
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In the game exactly. Yeah, that's the incorrect answer. The immediate mission is never to win. The the ultimate goal is to win. But the immediate mission is what must I do now and what must I do next? Because if I'm a if I'm a football player or I'm I'm a part of a football team and it's fourth and one and we're in the red zone, we're down by two.
::Josiah Igono
The immediate mission is to get the first down to give my or or to get my to get that that ball in position. So my field goal kicker can kick the game winning field goal. That's the immediate mission we got. We got to move the chains.
::Pat McCalla
how does that help someone stay focused rather than So we use again, the analogy or seasoning of an athlete
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Yeah.
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next thing.
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Because what happens, what happens is a lot of times when we when we look at focus, we are trying to that's why the the the adjective, the key descriptor there is immediate it.
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And what happens is many people try to look at the whole thing, how am I going to get this degree? How am I going to pay this bill? How am I going to, you know, do X, y, z, A, B, C, one, two, three, fill in the blank. And it's like, no, right here, right now. It's like Moses, right?
::Josiah Igono
It's like it's like Moses, right? God was just like, Hey, man, Moses, I need you to do some for me and need you to go to Pharaoh. And and Moses just backpedaled on I can't do that. I'm not like, I'm not going speak about and I love what God told them. And he goes,
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Hey, Moses, what's in your hand right there?
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He's like, I got this staff. He goes, Hey, let me show you something. And we know the story. We know what happens next. And a lot of times it's just like, Dude, what do you what do you have right there in your hand? What is the thing that you have to do right now? Focus on what you can do right now with what you have and do the very best.
::Pat McCalla
and just say, this is why I love this book so much and I'm going to keep breaking on it. This whole podcast,
::Pat McCalla
it's applicable to everyone. It's focused on athletic performance.
::Pat McCalla
But again, like you're saying, we're both we're both men of faith. We're both Jesus followers. And I remember years ago when I was in high school and I went to my he was a mentor
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Yeah,
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woman I
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go. Yeah.
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Yeah,
::Pat McCalla
immediate.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, immediate.
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You got to be focused on the immediate.
::Pat McCalla
so you wrote a book
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and,
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and
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Yeah,
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Right now,
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life. Yeah, for
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Yeah,
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah,
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Yeah. So kill the noise. The noise is what is noise?
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Noise. Disturbance. It's static, it's interference. It's something that is is, is. It's an interruption, right? That's what it is. And usually noise is not pleasant. Noise is not only external and it's not only the fans and the stuff that's going up. The elements, the people, the boos, the jeers, the temperature. Right. The adverse things that are happening externally.
::Josiah Igono
But it's also internal, right? Like, man, I am I good enough? You know, man, this is it that sometimes gets the loudest noise. Absolutely. Exactly. So that's what the noise is. And so when you start looking at the noise, right, it's kind of I call it I call it multiple channels or channels of communication as an athlete. And you have to figure out, you know, those who are listening, they have to figure out what their channels of communication are.
::Josiah Igono
But what I one of the things I wrote in the book is that for an athlete, there should only be three channels of communication open the communication between me, my coach, me, my teammates. I mean, what you see on that last play? I do, This is a fastball. Is it firm? Is it moving like a man? How does he get out in that of his routes?
::Josiah Igono
You know, You know, can you you know if he good from that, you know, is her is her jumper good. Like like what does that look like. Right. So communication my teammates and then communication with myself positive self-talk whether that's affirmations whether that's me praying whatever the case may be those are the only three channels that should be open.
::Josiah Igono
And a lot of times we get into satellite TV mode, right? And we got all the channels we're flicking through all the channels, seeing what's going on. And I talk about this in the book, you know, when we were kids, it's like you go you go to your friend's house and this friend has all the lights on. He's playing PlayStation with you, He's texting, he's on his computer.
::Josiah Igono
Right? He he's doing all he's doing something on the iPad. He's watching TV on another screen. Right. And there are all these channels of communication open. There's all these kids and it's like, dude, it's too much. And when you kill the noise, it gets in killing the noise. You know, it's it's it's it's couched messaging, but that's where all of the mental skills come in.
::Josiah Igono
Right? The progressive, the most relaxation, the affirmations, the positive self-talk, the the, the focal points. Right. All of those things,
::Pat McCalla
you know, from that that's in chapter one. The rest of your book has so many of that and you're the king of acronyms, by the way.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah. The rest of the
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anxiety with that.
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kill. Yes, right. How you just
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Right.
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your coach, your teammates. Yep.
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and your self-talk.
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Yeah. But I encourage our
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Yeah. What would be. Yeah,
::Pat McCalla
a great question for them to wrestle
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what if you only had one?
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you know. I mean, what if you only had one channel of communication
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you have, you're, you're in dire straits and you got to figure some stuff out.
::Josiah Igono
Who are you calling for? Some people that's, you know, it's going to make them sweat for other people, it's like ups, you know what I'm saying? You know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah. yeah, for sure. Yeah,
::Pat McCalla
And that's that's why when people are in dire straits and you've been there. I've been there. That's why that's some of the most life transforming moments in our
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life.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, spend
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That's right. The true God
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you. Yeah,
::Pat McCalla
that's not it. So
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jump for a jump in a chapter three then, and
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in
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that anxiety and I know
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this is going to drop after you.
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But tomorrow, while we're sitting in the studio,
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Yeah.
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and stress. Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
Let's land here for a moment, because I know for sure there's not a listener that doesn't deal with us because we're human,
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
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Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
ever before.
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Like you said, you got all these different all this noise going on.
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Unpack that a little bit. The Tricky
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
that?
::Pat McCalla
Unpack that a little bit. The Tricky
::Josiah Igono
Yeah. I call the trig, I call the tricky Triad because obviously there's three things there
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and many people conflate those terms.
::Josiah Igono
They, they use them interchangeably. And I think that once you I'm big on definitions because if you don't understand definitions and you can't understand concepts, and if you don't understand concepts, it's really hard to talk big picture. So when you start talking about the tricky triad, especially for an athlete or a high level performer, you got to know what's going on.
::Josiah Igono
Because if you if you know what's going on, then you can diagnose it, you can call it out and then you can solve it, right? So I think I don't know if it was Einstein or some famous mind said that when you understand the problem, that's half of the battle, just understanding what the problem is. Right? So yeah, exactly.
::Josiah Igono
So, so we have to understand what the problem is, right? What is the thing that we're dealing with. So when you look at stress, stress, you know, for all intents and purposes here in this conversation is how much tension something is under. That's what stresses, whether it's cognitive stress, whether it's physical stress, it's how much tension something is under.
::Josiah Igono
Tension is not necessarily a bad thing. However, tension can also destroy you if you're not if it's too much. Right. So when you look at, you know, stress, if I go to the weight room and I stress my bones, my ligaments, my tendons, my muscles for Yeah, for a certain amount of time, right. They're going to get stronger like any time a bone Ben's osteoblasts are sent out, the bone becomes calcified, it becomes thicker.
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And that that bone, my bones become thicker. Right? And they become ultimately stronger. Stress is not a bad thing. As a matter of fact, when you start studying stress, the different types of physiological psychological stress you stress, as we know in science, is positive stress. As a matter of fact, any organism, it's arguable that any organism, if it is to grow, it has to be under some type of stress so that it can grow.
::Pat McCalla
great point. Any organism
::Josiah Igono
Yes.
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Yep. Yep. It's tension as the childs is in the baby as the child is in its mother's belly. What is it doing? Over time? It's growing and it's causing more tension, causing more stress for the mother. Until that child leaves the womb. Right. So anything that you any when you start talking about stress, stress is is not necessarily a bad thing.
::Josiah Igono
In science, we call it you stress. You stress is is it's positive stress. It's stress that promotes growth. Too much stress could crush you or worse. Right. So stress is not necessarily a bad thing. We just need to understand, you know what I'm saying? Like what's happening, You know, when you start looking at cognitive stress, right, Dr. Carl Dweck or Dr. Carol Dweck, rather, I'm sorry, she is the the, the the founder and she's the one who made the term growth mindset popular.
::Josiah Igono
She developed it, right? Dr. Carol Dweck Yeah. Dr. Carol Dweck Yeah, she's, she's awesome, right? And when in one of the areas that I believe that she studied greatly was the anterior cingulate cortex, which is an area in our brain that's responsible for, you know, error detection and, you know, responses and things like that. And when you look at like little kids, right, little kids when they're learning something for the first time, you know, they're in there and they're just you're gripping that little pen with that pencil, that crayon with their whole hand.
::Josiah Igono
And they're just like, you know what I'm saying? That area
::Pat McCalla
so natural for us. But they're working so hard
::Josiah Igono
Exactly. And they're stressed. They're there's there's like, there's like cognitive like and then I kind of figure this out. My kids, when they're doing homework and they're frustrated, I look at them, I'm like, Good, good. That's cognitive stress. That's good.
::Josiah Igono
That means the neurons are firing. You know what I mean? Since they're firing, that's good. And then you look at something like fear.
::Josiah Igono
Fear has everything to do something that. That. Right? Yeah. Part of tricky trap. Yep. Yep. Fear has a component of there's there's immediate and present danger. Okay. The thing about fear, unlike anxiety which I'm going to talk about here in a second, fear typically in
::Pat McCalla
this because I think. I think even I probably think of fear and anxiety as being the
::Josiah Igono
You're not you're not. Okay. Yeah. So fear, fear there's imminent an immediate danger present.
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And typically this is the kicker right here. Typically with fear, there is a physical object.
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With fear, there's a physical object.
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at a rattlesnake or a boulder or a cougar. Yeah. Like, dude, you better be afraid.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah. And that's something that God gave us, right? Like, you know, in terms of, you know, having biases and protecting ourselves from danger and this, that and the third. Right. So when you look at fear, if somebody if we're in a crowded place and somebody pulls out a weapon like, Hey, everybody hit the ground, yeah, dude, that's cause to be afraid because there's a fist
::Pat McCalla
into the fight. Flight or freeze, right? That like
::Josiah Igono
so, Yeah, sometimes. Yes, that's what we're seeing. Yeah,
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Yeah.
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Yeah. Yeah. There's danger. There's danger. There's a 90 mile an hour fastball coming in my head. I'm not going to sit there and be like, come on, let's go. I'm going to duck, dude, Because there's immediate danger.
::Josiah Igono
There's immediate danger, right? And it could harm me. Or worse. We live in Phenix, man. There's snakes and scorpions. If I hate snakes, you know what I mean? And if a snake jumps out, there's cause to be what? Afraid? Because there is an immediate present danger. Okay,
::Pat McCalla
immediate, present danger.
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That's right.
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There's a physical object. There's a physical that can harm you.
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Or worse. Okay,
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anxiety has everything to do with an imminent event. Right. That has not happened yet. There's an there's an there's an event that is forthcoming, imagined in our mind that hasn't happened yet. And
::Pat McCalla
I remember in chapter three, you really unpack this in this book
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Yeah. Yes. It
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Yeah.
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Yeah. It hasn't happened,
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I call it, not to be, you know, funny with words, but I call the fear of a fear that hasn't happened.
::Pat McCalla
The fear, The fear that
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hasn't even happened yet. Or she might say, no. Well, do you have an answer yet?
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the plane might go down, it might crash. Does everything book to ticket yet or they might cut me. They might release me for the team. Do you understand that the coach actually likes you? And they have plans, long term plans for you? Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
Anxiety is a killer, man, because it's an imagined event and the thing about imagine if you look at the word imagination, I'm not going to you know, I'm not going to get into imagination right now.
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But when you look at imagination, imagination is neat. It's neutral, It's neither positive nor negative. But we can make it positive or we can make it negative. I'm going to have to ask you a question. What's the difference between anticipation and anxiety?
::Josiah Igono
Not a trick question. This is just a philosophical discussion.
::Pat McCalla
Well, anticipation would I would usually think of that as a positive thing.
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It's I'm hopeful. I'm anticipate that she's going to say yes, I'm anticipating that I'm going to come across the finish line in first place. I'm an artist that I would usually am I right? I would usually think that as a positive thing.
::Josiah Igono
You're you're now you nailed it before you're so glad because I took your test.
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yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I think I got it. Yeah, yeah. No, that's. That's good. That's good. Yeah, that's good. Good.
::Josiah Igono
So. So anticipation. There's typically like there's, there's positive feelings in associations, you know that they're come with that. Right. So on you when you were a kid the night before your birthday or the night before Christmas. I can't wait. Right. There's anticipation.
::Josiah Igono
But guess what? Has it happened yet? No, it's all what? It's in our head. It's imagined. It's imagined. It's an imagined event. man. I think Mommy and Daddy are going to give me a bike or they're going to give me that PlayStation game, or I think I'm going to get this for Christmas. It's all in our head, man.
::Josiah Igono
It's imagined. Yeah, right. I think the disciples on the on the on the boat Master, do you not care that we perish? How can you fall asleep? There's all this. There's Windsor Contrary. And Jesus in there sleeping, dude, Right? Yeah, right. No anxiety there. But
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that instance, it's actually a conflation of fear. Right.
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A present in immediate storm they're they're probably sinking. There's like and there's like dude we're going to die. We're going to die, dude. We're about to die, right? So we have to understand that, you know, you know, when we start talking about anticipation, I give you that example because it's imagined, right? And then the same in the same the same thing that can be said for the positive.
::Josiah Igono
It can be taken negative as well. You know what? I got in trouble at school this week and my birthday's tomorrow. Dude, I don't know if I'm a geek in anything.
::Pat McCalla
now. Now it's moving from anticipation. More of
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, Yeah, dude, my mom and dad are stressed out, man. Dad lost his job, and blah, blah, blah, blah, and I don't know, I don't think we're going to have anything this, this, this Christmas or whatever, whatever the case may be.
::Josiah Igono
Right. It's
::Pat McCalla
interesting. Just say that you bring up that illustration of, like, a kid with his birthday or something, because what ends up happening right is a lot of the stuff that does happen, these these imaginations, these stories
::Josiah Igono
we do things
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and like, absolutely. Now,
::Pat McCalla
this tricky triad that you're talking about, where especially with anxiety, we're creating stories that haven't happened yet.
::Pat McCalla
what's your
::Josiah Igono
definition? A fear of a fear that hasn't happened yet.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah,
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what we know and what we experienced.
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Yeah,
::Pat McCalla
So.
::Pat McCalla
you're working with athletes.
::Pat McCalla
But again, there's nobody listening that hasn't doesn't wrestle with this. How do you help people? I read the book so
::Josiah Igono
like, know where you go with this, but
::Josiah Igono
There's there's first of all, we have to define what they're going through. Like, what is it that you're going through? What is it that you're fearful of?
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One of the things I always ask players, I'm like, Man, what are you excited about? What are you concerned about? Right. What makes you angry? Because usually when you ask those three questions right there, you get a lot you get a lot of good stuff. Yep. What are you concerned about? About What do you think? Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
that's a good one that just
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I mean, that's
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Yeah.
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Yeah. Because you start tapping into the emotions, you start tapping into, you know, like extremes. Right? And so to your question, how do you overcome that stuff? You know, I have a there's an acronym that I've been using for years.
::Josiah Igono
It's called Brass. BRACA Yeah. I mean, it's one of those things it's not in not necessarily an exhaustive list, but it helps with this stuff. It helps right? When we start talking about cognitive stress, anxiety and fear. Right? And so if you look at the history of brass knuckles. Brass, Right. Brass knuckles were initially used in Greco-Roman times.
::Josiah Igono
Some would say some historians and scholars would say during the times of like, you know, the Colosseum, when gladiators would, yeah, man, gladiators would come out and they would, you know, they would fix themselves with all these different weapons so that they can survive. Right.
::Josiah Igono
During World War One. In World War two, I believe they were actually given that as part of their military wares.
::Josiah Igono
And so if you go and do some simple research, you will find brass knuckles that have knives attached to them. It's crazy, right? For a sport, especially for hand-to-hand combat. Yeah, they're illegal. They're illegal in many countries and many states. I found that myself. I've gone through airports. Yeah, I've gone through airports. You're like, sir, And I'm like, what?
::Josiah Igono
And they're holding up my brass knuckles. I'm like, crap, You know what I'm saying? I'm like, they're like, you know, And they take them from me, right? And my you take
::Pat McCalla
Time out. You carry around a pair of brass knuckles.
::Josiah Igono
I mean, that's a fight. And like I you know, there was a time where I was given this talk so much and then I would show you and I'd show the guys and they'd be like, this is awesome.
::Josiah Igono
They pass them around. I'm like, Guys, make sure I get my brass knuckles back, you know? Did the TSA exactly. The TSA agent was like, Thanks, buddy, Good story.
::Josiah Igono
But, yeah, you know, and so when you look at what do brass knuckles do, they concentrate the punching power by the person who's doing the work. That's what it does.
::Josiah Igono
And it disrupts and breaks tendons, bone, tissue, like that's what it does. And so the acronym is as you are fighting in this fight for clarity. Right? It's a fight for clarity, a fight for peace in this fight that you're having for tranquility and poise. You know, pull out the knuckles, man. Pull the knuckles out, pull out the brass knuckles.
::Josiah Igono
And the first thing that you want to do is you want to breathe. That's B breathe. When you look at the human brain and the frontal lobe, which is in charge of innovation and strategic thinking, higher order operation, decision making, all of those things that happen in the frontal lobe, the frontal that the human brain has two primary nutrients that it must have for high at highest levels of functioning oxygen and glucose.
::Josiah Igono
When you were a child and you were mad, what did your mom tell you? Hey, take a deep breath and take a deep breath, right. It
::Pat McCalla
Was actually really good
::Josiah Igono
advice. It's actually scientifically sound advice because the frontal lobe actually receives oxygen. Last.
::Josiah Igono
So when we're breathing for extended periods of time now, we're flooding our brain with the things that it needs to function at its highest.
::Josiah Igono
When we're not breathing, we become reactive. In short, we don't think
::Pat McCalla
isn't it?
::Pat McCalla
Because our body's
::Pat McCalla
natural with anxiety.
::Josiah Igono
::Josiah Igono
It wants to survive.
::Josiah Igono
right. You
::Josiah Igono
Breathe, breathe.
::Josiah Igono
Deep
::Josiah Igono
Breathing is the proverbial steering wheel, the brake.
::Josiah Igono
And the accelerator for any type of
::Josiah Igono
performance issue that you may be facing. You're talking
::Pat McCalla
about it because the frontal cortex of the
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah,
::Josiah Igono
I'm telling you, man. So,
::Josiah Igono
so. So, yeah. You got to take a deep breath, man. I think of Dr. Victor Frankel, and many people have read his book, Man's Search for Meaning and Doctor.
::Josiah Igono
Yes, it really is. Doctor Viktor Frankl was part of the he was a prisoner in Auschwitz, you know, during the egregious things that happened during Nazi Europe and in Hitler's regime. Right. And, you know, some great insights, man. And I just I believe that God put certain people through certain situations to reveal certain truths that are lasting. And I think that Doctor Viktor Frankl was one of those men and one of those people in history.
::Josiah Igono
And one of the things that he said that's so powerful, he said, between stimulus and response, there is a space and in that space is our ability to choose and in our choice, like growth and freedom. Now, what the heck does that have to do with breathing? Many times something happens, somebody cuts us off on the freeway, somebody says something disrespectful to our family member.
::Josiah Igono
Sometimes our boss or people at work are just irritating us to no end. And so between that stimulus, we don't leave any room for space, so we become reactive. How could you do that? Why'd you cut me off, man? Screw this. Blah, blah, blah blah, blah. Between stimulus and response, there is a space and many of us don't allow for that space to take place.
::Josiah Igono
So we become reactors. But when we can take it, when we can do something as simple as breathing and stepping away, what we're doing is we're creating space
::Josiah Igono
between stimulus and response. There's a space. And in that space is our ability to choose, our ability to choose. Now we have options,
::Josiah Igono
and in our choice lies growth and freedom.
::Josiah Igono
So breathing is so powerful. The are
::Pat McCalla
that you know this, but you just perfectly wove this whole conversation into really the core of what our No Gray Areas podcast
::Josiah Igono
about, about the
::Josiah Igono
is an awesome
::Josiah Igono
That's awesome. You just. Yeah, no, that's awesome. Yeah. Thanks, man. He didn't pay me, guys. He didn't pay for that. So. So the
::Josiah Igono
so the answer is reframe, right?
::Josiah Igono
You start talking about stress, fear, anxiety, the tricky triad. You got to reframe
::Josiah Igono
how you frame anything determines how you see anything. So I can have the crappiest, craziest looking picture ever. But if I buy a nice expensive frame and put it around this, this picture,
::Josiah Igono
it's going to be looking like a million bucks. Right? But if I have a if I have the best picture ever, and if the frame is like cheap and it's falling like who did what and why are you hanging this on the wall, dude?
::Pat McCalla
Yeah,
::Josiah Igono
Framing is huge. So I tell athletes instead of saying I can't do X or I can't Y, what we need, what we need to do is say, I can do X when I do Y.
::Pat McCalla
I love. This is the part of the book that really another part of the book that really stood out to
::Josiah Igono
me say
::Josiah Igono
so, I can't throw a fastball, I can't sink this free throw,
::Josiah Igono
stop saying I can't stop saying that.
::Josiah Igono
What you need to do is say, I can sink this free throw. When I get full extension, I can barrel up, I can hit this, hit this curveball. When I barrel it up,
::Josiah Igono
I can sink this point. You're reframing. You're putting in that million dollar frame. Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
think say, do think, say do whatever you think you're eventually going to say and whatever you say you're eventually going to do.
::Josiah Igono
Your words are so powerful because and the reason why is because your words are the connective tissue between your thoughts and your action.
::Pat McCalla
and this goes back to what we talked about earlier,
::Pat McCalla
our words. We have so much internal dialog that I don't think a lot of people even realize. Like, again, I encourage our audience start paying attention
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
it. Like, yeah,
::Josiah Igono
100%. You're saying, is that
::Josiah Igono
You're very powerful. Doctor Jason Silk and he has a book called 10 Minutes of Silence. I highly suggest you read it. It's one of the I first read when I got into, you know, sport performance psychology.
::Josiah Igono
to: ::Pat McCalla
So if you just
::Josiah Igono
you've got to reframe it and
::Josiah Igono
I 800%. I can do X when I do.
::Josiah Igono
Why not? If I can do X when I do, why? And what you're doing is you're actually creating a problem solving, you're creating a problem solving situation and you're giving yourself a process oriented solution. In that statement, I can do X When I do Y, I can get in shape. When I do this, I can get in a when I do this, I can barrel it up.
::Josiah Igono
When I do this, I can sink this free throw when I do this. Yeah,
::Josiah Igono
it's not a you. We have to change the frame, man. So good. You know. So that's the ah the, the a stands for acknowledge
::Josiah Igono
sometimes is one of the greatest things to do when it comes to stress, fear and anxiety is to acknowledge that you're dealing with it.
::Josiah Igono
Don't try to act like a tough guy like or tough girl like, don't try like, just acknowledge it. This is research, man. This isn't me making this up of the simple, The simple fact that you acknowledge somebody acknowledges something, is stressing them out actually reduces anxiety down right away. Just saying it. Just just saying it. Because what it does is it defends the lion and it takes his claws away.
::Josiah Igono
It takes its claws and his teeth away.
::Josiah Igono
you know, if you if you if you look at it right. I was going to give you an impersonation, but I'm not going to go do. But, you know, you look at you look at you. Look at you look at, you know, all of these shows, right? These reality TV shows.
::Josiah Igono
Right. Biggest Loser was a huge hit for a lot of time. All these reality TV shows, there's always this element that's present reality TV shows. One of the key characters is about to have a breakdown. You know, you, Johnny, What's going on? Johnny, who used to get made fun of when I was in the third grade, But this person or Sally, what's going on?
::Josiah Igono
Sally We all have this fear. I have this fear of heights. And and what do they do? They bring in Johnny's bully from grade school. You got to face you got to face the person now who. Who's been giving you all this this stuff, what do they do? They take Sally up into a you know, into a prop plane and they basically kick her off and make her parachute to face that fear to insult.
::Josiah Igono
And what happens when these contestants face that fear? There's like a release
::Pat McCalla
like you said, a defending
::Josiah Igono
and yeah, it's like, man, I didn't I didn't think it was. Yeah, I didn't die and it wasn't that bad. And I gave this person way too much power. Yeah, you have to acknowledge that you're going through something and it takes stress down good, right?
::Josiah Igono
And anxiety. Right.
::Josiah Igono
the S the S stands for survey. So my breathing's right. Okay. My, my, my reframing is right. My words are right. I've acknowledged that I'm doing X, Y, and Z. The S stands for Survey. Survey means to to look around to to to marry. What could be with what actually is what is a survey or do a survey or when they go to a new township, what are they doing?
::Josiah Igono
They're looking around. They're saying, okay, we can put a stoplight here. We can put an easement here. We can't put two lanes here because we have a lot of traffic at rush hour and they're marrying what could be with what already is and and what happens what happens is when when we don't survey the land, obviously I'm dealing with athletes here, but when an athlete's doesn't know where his infielders are or his outfielders, when they don't know where the where the defense is coming from or where the inning or the screens coming from, you start playing with tunnel vision and it heightens stress, fear, and it heightens anxiety because you don't know what's going on.
::Josiah Igono
And one of the things I talk about in the book is that your brain has several cortical maps. You have a cortical map in your brain for everything that you do, tying your shoe, riding a bike, right? Driving a car. You have a cortical map for throwing a baseball. You have a cortical map for everything. Everything.
::Josiah Igono
And then
::Pat McCalla
when we've done some of those things many, many, many times,
::Josiah Igono
Yes,
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, it's automatic. Yeah, it's just automatic. So when you survey what sound effect. That's right. That's right. That's right. And so when you survey what happens is you actually you clarify the maps, you know, if they so so let me give you an example
::Josiah Igono
at home right now at your house.
::Josiah Igono
Do you know where your bathroom is? Yeah. Do you know your kitchen is you know you're back there. The backyard is you know, are all three of those things are okay now Power outage
::Josiah Igono
to 2 a.m., dark power outage. You're up. You need some water.
::Pat McCalla
I can get around pretty, pretty
::Josiah Igono
well. Do you know where your backyard is?
::Josiah Igono
You know your kitchen is You know your bathroom is Why? How?
::Pat McCalla
I've just walked it many, many times.
::Josiah Igono
That's how our brains are. Our brains have done these things so many times that we know exactly where they are. Now, fast forward. Now you're on the road. You're in you're in a nice hotel. I know. A power outage.
::Josiah Igono
Do you know exactly You're not getting around is easy.
::Josiah Igono
This is exactly what happens. Yes. Right. This is exactly what happens to athletes, high performers, Anybody
::Josiah Igono
who is struggling with stress, fear or anxiety. And they have not taken the time to survey both cognitively and physically what is around them. This is this is science, man. This is straight science right here. Right. Well, if you look at every high level performer during a playoff game, during during any type of like pivotal game or whatever, what are they doing the night before, the day after they're walking around the court, the field, they're seeing what the graveled turf is looking like.
::Josiah Igono
You're seeing where the sun is. They're surveying, they're clear, flying this courtroom, visualizing that. Yeah, yeah. So when you start talking about stress, fear and anxiety, these things help to clarify those maps. And when you do all of those things, you breathe, you reframe, you acknowledge, you survey, everything slows down. Yeah. You're able to create space between stimulus and response.
::Josiah Igono
You're able to make really good decisions because you now you're operating from a place of poise and a place of power instead of a place of confusion and chaos.
::Pat McCalla
you know, and the language you just use, which is so interesting because anybody who watches sports, they know when they when they see someone who's
::Pat McCalla
playing really well, they talk about like the game slowed down for
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, yeah.
::Josiah Igono
::Josiah Igono
Yeah,
::Josiah Igono
make the right. And I would even argue so because we use that term a lot, right?
::Josiah Igono
you know, it slows down sometimes,
::Josiah Igono
you know, when you start. Because I've had some really intellectual conversations with people about this concept and I use the term slow down, you know, in a proverbial sense, but at the end of day, a second or still second, an hour and an hour and an hour or still an hour a minute.
::Josiah Igono
So a minute. Right. But why does it slow down? Because now we're controlling the narrative. We're controlling what's going on in the situation is not controlling us. So from a spiritual perspective, you know, you know, as a faith, right? We are not physical beings having a spiritual experience on earth. We're not that's not what the Bible says. We are spiritual beings having a physical experience on Earth.
::Josiah Igono
We have to deal with time. We have to deal with our our decaying bodies. We have to deal with sin in a broken world while we're here. We have to deal with that in time and space. And but these things help us, right, to be able to do what God has called us to do on this earth. So that's why I call the Tricky Triad.
::Josiah Igono
And those three things help with so many of those things that you deal with when it comes to stress, fear and anxiety.
::Pat McCalla
man. Josiah, we could, we could, we could go on and on. I just. I love every time I meet with you, I get fired up, like I said, and motivated and encouraged.
::Pat McCalla
I would just really, again, encourage our audience the pieces. It's a great book. We're going to do a giveaway with
::Josiah Igono
Awesome.
::Josiah Igono
underline or watch notes over on my computer to make
::Josiah Igono
You know, I'm on I'm going to all the social media channels. I don't think I'm on TikTok at the time of this recording.
::Josiah Igono
I don't think I'm on TikTok, but I'm on LinkedIn, I'm on YouTube, I'm on Twitter. All the major platforms, Instagram. So just say you got two or all things performance you can if you just do a simple search on those platforms for all things performance or. Josiah Ego. No, ego, no. You'll see all my stuff. yeah, that
::Pat McCalla
information
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, absolutely. To that
::Josiah Igono
Yes. Yes.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah. Yeah, man. So my mom and dad, they named us after kings in the Bible. One of them was not necessarily a king, but Josiah David, Cyrus and Jacob.
::Josiah Igono
And you could you could argue that Jacob had kingly traits and, you know, but. But that's, you know, that's the. Yeah, that's how it started, man. Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
Josiah became one of my
::Josiah Igono
::Pat McCalla
in,
::Pat McCalla
Israel's history. And even at a young age, he turned the entire nation back around, and he had a horrible father and
::Josiah Igono
yeah, yeah,
::Josiah Igono
given
::Josiah Igono
And then talked about, yeah,
::Josiah Igono
Yoshi Yahoo! That's right. You told me that and I went to go look it up. And you're right. Yeah, you're right. Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
So that's why we made our nickname for our son is Yo.
::Josiah Igono
Yo,
::Josiah Igono
That's awesome, man. Yeah,
::Josiah Igono
Such a small
::Josiah Igono
like September 9th or something like that,
::Josiah Igono
down
::Josiah Igono
of appreciate you
::Pat McCalla
give somebody some great
::Pat McCalla
advice. So. All right. To choose an ally.
::Josiah Igono
man
::Pat McCalla
you were here before.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
You know,
::Pat McCalla
if I figured it out the first time or not. I know I'm going to figure it out this time because you said you're going to just
::Pat McCalla
do it spur of the moment
::Josiah Igono
Yeah. All right, So. So two truths in a lie. So, okay, here my statements.
::Josiah Igono
We've been married for eight years. My doctorate is in performance psychology and. And at one point in time, I had a 39.5 inch vertical.
::Pat McCalla
I know two is number two is true. And I know you are a good athlete. I'm going with the 39.5 inch vertical, and I think you've been married longer than eight years. So I'm going to say that one's the lie.
::Josiah Igono
which one?
::Pat McCalla
The first one. You've been married for eight years. That's a lie. You've been married longer than that, haven't you?
::Josiah Igono
Yes. Yeah, man. Good man. That's good. That's good, man.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, it's 14, 14, man. 14 years. So you nailed it. Yeah. Had the
::Pat McCalla
privilege of what? Before we even knew each other. We met when I moved down here.
::Pat McCalla
And you're working at Fellowship
::Josiah Igono
Yeah.
::Pat McCalla
But I actually saw you play when you were playing for NIU. You were playing up in Montana,
::Josiah Igono
Montana in Missoula, Montana. man. Grizzlies.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah
::Josiah Igono
39.0 man I was I was an average athlete or two below average depending on who you ask. I mean, if my teammates were on the on the podcast, they would they would all say below average, give me, give me crap. But yeah, man.
::Josiah Igono
Hey, hey. I tell you what, I tell you what, man,
::Josiah Igono
that was one of the most in top, I would say top two craziest environments I've ever been in in my life in Missoula. That was crazy. People don't
::Pat McCalla
people don't know because it's skin.
::Josiah Igono
it's crazy
::Josiah Igono
yeah a
::Josiah Igono
I mean, I had little kids flipping me off, you know what I mean? I was about to fight this all stuff that we're talking about right now, you know, between stimulus and response, I had no space. There was no space. I had negative space. You don't say a word. I caught you the one time we all met. One day that I did.
::Josiah Igono
I got ejected from that game. I got ejected from that game because, you know, I just lost it. The guy
::Josiah Igono
I just lost it, man. Yeah,
::Josiah Igono
Apparently I blacked out coming
::Josiah Igono
you guys. Yeah. Yeah. Sitting. I'm watching an eight year old kid flipping you off and your dad, you're like, Good job.
::Josiah Igono
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
::Josiah Igono
That was brutal, man. And we lost and we lost that game to man. Yeah.
::Josiah Igono
Just say thanks so much, man. I appreciate it. Thank you. I
::Josiah Igono
yeah,
::Josiah Igono
I appreciate you.
::Josiah Igono
Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah.
::Josiah Igono
I appreciate you. Thank you. All right.
::Host
What a powerful conversation that was with Josiah.
::Host
So many nuggets of truth that we can hold on to after this episode.
::Host
We hope this episode inspired you, and if you want to connect with Josiah, we'll leave his contact info in the description below. Be sure to enter our giveaway on our Instagram account for a chance to win his new book, Own the Pieces.
::Host
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::Host
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